Casual Look Fashion Over 50
I’ve Been Thinking. . .
I have been in a mood for a while. It’s like my “give a damn” got busted.
The Scoop
For a while now I have been feeling like, I am enough. I am tired of trying so hard at everything I do. I am always people-pleasing and my self-talk is just sad. I tell myself I need to do this and that, just to meet self-imposed expectations. All in the name of trying to be what society thinks women should be and do. Argh, I am so over it.
I heard something the other day. This person said they no longer worried about the things they had no control over. They did the best they could for themselves and the rest would work out. This struck a chord in me. And I’ve started practicing this way of thinking. I already can feel the relief all through my body and mind. Whenever I feel frustrated, I just release it and stop the buildup of frustration and I relax. I had no idea it would be so easy.
This spills out into my blog as well. I would not verbalize it but my inner voice would tell me that if I would just lose a few pounds, or exercise more or eat a different way I would be happier. But I do all that to the best of my ability and lately when I look at my photo shoots, I think to myself, that’s good enough for me and I won’t worry if it is good enough for others. It is out of my control.
I have been wanting to add little videos to my blog. And while I am learning how to do it and practicing taping, I learned how hard I am on myself through self-talk. All I could see were lines on my face, and faults at first. But then I heard myself and thought this is nuts, how long have I done this to myself? I was making fun of myself in the video and making excuses for what I saw as my inferiorities. I decided to stop and it is a little harder to change the things that are ingrained into your DNA (the self-hate women are taught as girls) but I am doing it. I am working hard not to degrade myself and make excuses for things that are natural.
This post was a little deeper dive than I like to take but I wanted to share. And to tell you that I am working on adding little vlogs to my blog where I share some behind the scenes things. Maybe.
My Look
I am wearing a pair of jeans from last year (Gap), a top that is actually an active wear top (Amazon) and a pair of very old slides (Sam Edelman). My hair is growing out and since I have been trying some new hair care practices it is starting to look healthier.
Create Your Look
I’m linking exact jeans in the medium wash. I have the medium wash but left them in Idaho so I ordered another pair because they are on sale. I linked my exact top. I sized up to medium to get extra length and ended up preferring the fit. I also linked some mules and bags that would be fun.
Peace!
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